A Friend!

I think I may have finally made a mommy friend, maybe even two! Woohoo! Every week Jax and I go to the local Gymboree Play for a class and last week 3 of us exchanged numbers. Jax is almost one and it has taken me this long, you say? I know. And now I just have to play it cool.

I have had a rough go at this. My first friend was great. We were in prenatal classes and were even in the hospital together - she had her baby girl the day before Jax was born. AND, she lived 2 blocks away! We were able to meet up for one walk, but a month after the little ones were born, they moved back to California.

My second friend was a girl from prenatal class as well who I ran into at the local hospital's breastfeeding club. We emailed and made tentative plans to get together. One week later I received word that their sweet baby had passed from SIDS. I am getting upset as I write this reliving that time. There are just no words. I went to the services with another girl from our prenatal class and the three of us shared a hug and a hard cry. We emailed and made tentative plans to get together, but it never happened, and I didn't want to push. It may have been just too hard. What do you do in a situation like that? I didn't know her well enough to know what she would need from me. Our friendship was forming over the fact that we had babies similar in age and that wasn't the case anymore, so would she even still want to be friends? I hope to see her next month at the SIDS charity event next month she is organizing.

My third friend was another girl from prenatal classes. We emailed and met for coffee one afternoon and also ran into each other at the breastfeeding club. We attended the services for the baby of our friend together. We were both devastated and were in similar positions with our other friend and became somewhat of a support system for each other. We made tentative plans to have a Sunday brunch with our husbands and babies, but it just never happened. One of us had family in one weekend and then the other one would. I sent her an email a couple of months later and never heard back from her. I guess it's possible she didn't get my email because my computer ate it, but all my other ones got through. So, I didn't know what to do, so I did nothing. I may see her at this event next month and that would be nice.

So, as you can see, I need a mommy friend, or two, or ten! I promise I don't bite. much.